Victim blaming occurs when the victim of a crime or any wrongful act are held entirely or partially responsible for the harm that befell them. (Wikipedia) We see this alot in society in cases of rape, sexual harrassment, and physical/mental abuse. We often see the women blamed for these awful situations in which she obviously has no fault. It baffles me that any kind of rapist or abuser can be found to have just cause because a woman was “asking for it”.
Common accusations towards victims tend to be along the lines of:
1. Look at what you were wearing, no wonder you got raped.
2. You’re open about your sex life, no wonder people always come on to/ harrass you.
3. You openly admit you’re gay, no wonder you’re discriminated against.
4. You spoke your own opinions, no wonder he hit you.
The list goes on and on and the scenarios get more and more mind blowing.
I do not care what I decided to walk out into the street in, I do not care if I am naked, that does not excuse someone raping me nor does it make it my fault that I was raped should it happen. I don’t bend my opinions/beliefs to any man nor will I let him talk me down and if I stand up for myself, I do not deserve to be, nor was I asking to be, hit. Just because I’m comfortable about myself to openly admit that I am gay, bisexual, etc. does not mean that I deserve any discrimination that comes my way. Point blank, it is not the victim’s fault so stop blaming them!
It is such a tragedy to live in a society where a woman is afraid to speak up, or finds it useless to anyways, against one who has abused her for knowledge that she will be blamed and the abuser will get off scott free.
What ever happened to justice? Stop blaming the victim and start persecuting the abuser!